Some Thoughts About Weddings

So I said that today I would talk about weddings.  I think weddings are always a popular topic among women because, somewhere in her heart, every woman wants to get married.  Or, at the very least, she wants to wear that really pretty dress.  I am no stranger to wanting to get married.  It’s part of the life plan.  And, admittedly, whenever I get into a rainbows and sunshine type relationship, I like to make a mock-up of our future wedding.  Here’s the one that sticks in my head:

A few years ago I was dating a recent alumnus of my university and the Pi Kappa Phi fraternity.  Our wedding was going to be an amazing day with me in a pretty white dress and him in a striking black tux.  My bouquet would feature the flowers of our houses, though I think they are actually differing wedding seasons and quite contradictory color-wise.  The tuxes of the groomsmen and the dresses of the bridesmaids would be in the respective blues of our Greek organizations with the other colors acting as accents.  The colors would be around the seats in ribbons and flowers would be everywhere and tied with the ribbons.  The location wasn’t important.  Neither was the location of the reception.  The only important thing about the reception was that the cake would be tasty (so definitely not chocolate), there would be delicious champagne, and there would be an open bar.  In my esteemed opinion, every wedding needs an open bar.  No, really, at a wedding open bars are awesome.

Or, at least, I imagine they would be awesome.

I’ve only ever been to two weddings in my life, as far as my memory serves me.  The first was when I was about five and was a flower girl for my favorite Aunt’s wedding.  The second was when I attended the ceremony for my second grade teacher’s wedding.  I was supposed to attend a younger friend’s military wedding in July, but I was off at my summer job by then.  That’s my history with weddings.

Well, at this moment.

Last I heard, my GBF is engaged.  I found out through FB.  It’s a sad realization to hear these things through FB, but what can you do?  I won’t be attending his wedding due to legalities, but he’s already taken to calling the man his husband.  So there’s that.

I’m also in this group called the Fab Five.  At one point, there were six members, but it’s been so long that I’m not quite sure why there’s only five.  I think it’s because the sixth member was in a different fifth grade class.  Anyway, in this group of friends, I am the one who has dated around the most and has taking the role of perpetual bridesmaid.  Two of the girls are currently engaged, and one has only been dating the guy for three months.  Unfortunately for me, I am not going to be a bridesmaid for either one.  So there goes my consolation prize for being a perpetual bridesmaid.  How are the groomsmen supposed to know who the brides’ eligible single friends are?  I think I may need to wear a name tag…  Or a huge neon sign…

One of my dearest sorority sisters told me today that she got engaged on Saturday.  I am so happy for her!  I’m not quite sure what my chances are of being a bridesmaid for her, but they don’t really matter to me much.  I don’t feel a twinge of jealousy for her at all.  I think this might be because she’s a year older than me.  I know, that seems petty, but a year can make such a difference and I really just need to find my footing.  In any case, I’m saving now to make the flight out to California in the next couple of years for her wedding.  It will have been my fifth wedding by that time.  Well, fifth or so…  I’m really excited for the chance to see her and hopefully I’ll be able to make it out there before the wedding, that way I don’t only get to see her when she’s a stressed out wedding obsessed Allie.  It’s also going to be a marine wedding, so clearly it will be awesome!

One other friend is already married and has been for about a year now.  Her pictures are gorgeous!

I know that Post-Grad isn’t really the time to worry about weddings, so I wish my friends would halt their marriages a bit.  But I know that if it weren’t my friends my age (or younger) getting married, I wouldn’t be worrying as much.  So, I just have to take it in stride and know that eventually I will be marrying my fraternity man also.  I just hope that’s sooner rather than later because I want a Big Fat Greek (Letter Organization) family.

Also, neither of the Fab Five members are having open bars…  If this has taught me nothing, it’s that an open bar is a nice thing to have at a wedding.  Yes, I definitely plan on having an open bar at my future wedding.